Life in a box... Growth

What is personal growth?

What does it mean to grow? To go from one place to another and the changes it took to get there?

After my divorce I become a full time single father, struggled with relationship, struggled with my children, and was granted the time to myself to learn, study, and begin the journey to discovering healing.

Through my journey I have noticed changes within myself and wanted to list them out. These are what I consider my own characteristics of growth:

1. Learning to accept things that are beyond my control and accepting that I can only do so much. The rest I have to release.

2. Learning to accept others as they are and love them for who they are and where they are at in their own stances of life.

3. Learning the difference between needs and wants, and choosing to have the will power to make the choice between the two.

4. Accepting that intimacy is not the most important thing nor even a thing I should be seeking from someone else.

5. Discovering and holding to what I truly deserve and desire and what to look for in a friend or potential partner.

6. Learning to do my best in unknown situations and just because I don’t have all the answers or I fuck it up doesn’t mean I’m flawed. I can’t have all the answers all the time.

7. Learning to listen to others point of few and embrace their uniqueness even if it is not the same as my own because their points of view and emotions are just as important and valid as mine.

8. Choosing myself first over others, therefore not settling for less than I deserve just because I am lonely.

9. Accepting my flaws and imperfections, which are actually just personal perfections instead of allowing them to define me in a negative way.

10. Doing not just the outer work, but more importantly the inner work and taking the time to invest in myself as a single father, man, and individual.

11. Choosing to set and keep boundaries that are here to protect me. Accepting that anyone who does not respect my boundaries does not respect me.

12. Being authentic with myself, and everyone around me without fear of rejection or not being accepted.

13. Learning to love myself.

14. Taking time to rest, be mindful with my time, and being ok with saying NO!

15. Surrounding myself with people who are supportive, love me unconditionally, and will be here for me when I need them and not allowing toxic relationships into my life any longer.