Life in a box… Post divorce successes and learning lessons.
- Joe Siar
- Jul 1, 2021
- 2 min read
Post divorce successes and learning lessons:
Successes:
1. Acceptance over time of what my life has become.
2. Learning to move forward even though Ive never gotten closure.
3. Having and taking the time to figure out what I like, don’t like, want, and don’t want.
4. Learning to accept myself for who I really am vs. living in a false self of self.
5. Being at peace with my loneliness.
6. Spending my alone time doing whatever I want to do.
7. Being (majority) happy with myself, my body, my hobbies, my thoughts, and my failures.
8. Spending money on myself and not feeling guilty about it.
9. Enjoying my own space, and my own time alone, and my time with my kids.
10. Answering only to myself.
11. Getting counseling and talking with someone consistently about these things.
12. Realizing that all of these things are things that should have always been successes, and making the choice to never comprise again.
Learning lessons:
1. Not realizing these things in my marriage.
2. Becoming callus and cold towards allowing potential relationships in my life.
3. Carrying the weight of my pain and disappointment into my new life.
4. Sometimes allowing my loneliness to lead to poor decisions.
5. Ever thinking that being divorced makes me a failure.
6. Feeling sorry for myself.
7. Allowing my expectations about who I wanted to be or how things should have been to control me.
8. Not allowing people or things into my life so I can find my own happiness.
9. Ever thinking happiness comes from other people or things. (I know)
10. Beating myself up or blaming myself and allowing that to bring me down.
11. Not being confident in who I am, and what I have to offer to the world.
12. Ever thinking that just because life is overwhelming and I make mistakes that I am a failure.
13. Believing the LIE that I am not good enough and never will be good enough.
14. Doubting what I am capable of.
15. Thinking that anyone of these things would never happen to me.
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